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Don’t Bring Your Friends with You on Holiday – Make New Ones

May 5, 2012

Holidays are supposed to be fun, a chance to do something different from your daily routines. You want to have an unforgettable time – but for the right reasons.

Who you choose to as your holiday companion plays a major part in how you end up viewing the holiday, and your enjoyment of it. Nothing tests a friendship like staying under the same roof for a week or more – whether you are going on a cruise and stay in  holiday in the Med, an 18-30s in Magaluf or a safari in Kenya.

Breaking up with your best friend as a result of a holiday is not the best souvenir to take back home with you. It does seem inevitable for many though, as an   holiday survey found that one in ten friendships come to an abrupt halt after a joint holiday.

Hang out on Holiday

Hang out on Holiday

Never again, thanks!

A survey of 1,000   customers revealed that 97% of people have gone on a joint holiday with friends, and a third of these confessed to never wanting to go again with the same friend(s). Ouch!

Philip Jordan, ‘s  marketing director commented that holidays can put a strain on even the strongest of friendships. He continued: “Just because you enjoy the same bars, fashion and music doesn’t mean you’ll have the same attitudes towards holiday activities, spending and chores.”

True. People’s expectations of a holiday may not be the same, even if they happen to be friends. In fact, how you behave on holiday may not be the way you are in your home environment. This could come as a shock to your holiday companion. Thus, it is no surprise to learn that the survey goes on to say that a quarter of people felt differently about a friend(s) after spending their holiday with them – and not always in a good way…

What happens on holiday stays on holiday – not!

The reasons friends fall out can be manifold. Whether it be a clash of holiday personalities, differing opinions of what to do whilst on away or just a realisation that you perhaps were not suited to be friends in the first place. The  survey asked their customers why they fell out whilst holidaying together and here are the main culprits:

  • 28%      of people didn’t like it when their friend spent too much time with a      holiday romance;
  • 24%      ended up disagreeing about money – in particular how to split the bills;
  • 19%      wanted to do different things, such as sunbathing instead of going to      museums;
  • 16%      was unhappy that their friend was acting ‘differently’ whilst on holiday      to how they do at home – the most common personality changes cited were      outrageously, recklessly and selfishly behaviour;
  • 13%      said their friend spent their holiday moping over their partner back at      home.

Let’s stay friends

So how do you do it then, if you still want to island hop in Greece with Gareth, is Malaga-bound with Miranda or aim to traipse around Laos with Lindsay? How is it possible to stem the potential cataclysmic fall out if things don’t go exactly to plan?

There are a few issues you should look at prior to going that may help keep the friendship on the right route. For instance, share all the holiday planning. Though some people are inevitably better at navigating the web and spotting that perfect little hideaway hotel that is perfectly priced, resentment may set in if they feel they are stuck doing all the footwork alone.

Money. Much has been said about friendship and money. Don’t let notes and coins get in the way of an otherwise beautiful friendship – work it all out before you go away. Discuss what you are going to do about the money situation; will you be splitting the bills 50/50, will each pay their own way or will you have a shared money pot. Once you agree in advance, there is less of a risk that you will disagree once you are on holiday.

Less is more fun

Going on holiday as a large group of friends means there is more chance of fractions and disagreements – on a holiday small is best, and makes it easier for maintaining a happy atmosphere.

When it comes to any chores, make sure these are evenly distributed and shared. Some will have a preference for cleaning whilst others will insist on doing the cooking, but make it fair. There shouldn’t be one person who is always saddled with all the work.

Instead of compromising – go it alone

Don’t compromise too much or you will end up resenting your friend for preventing you from doing the stuff you enjoy. If you want to visit a particular museum, eat at a certain restaurant or take a day trip to see the alligators – do it! Even if it means doing it solo. Who knows; you may find some likeminded people to hang out with as you are doing it.

In fact, a survey by ebookers found that one in six of us prefer to holiday alone, and have done so in the last 18 months.

Hang out on Holiday

Hang out on Holiday

It is said that ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’, and this can also be true for your holiday companion. A little bit of time spent alone doing your own stuff means that you will be really pleased to see your friend again afterwards! All those little annoying habits that ticked you off in the cramped holiday apartment will evaporate once you spend a day just chilling out alone.

And chilling out is important – don’t fret too much over your friend’s bad habits or flaws. We all have some. The holiday won’t last forever – even if it might seem so at the time…

Anne Kenworthy

Hang out on Holiday

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